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Thursday, August 6, 2015

#MMGreekWeek When recruitment doesn't go your way

Today's #MMGreekWeek topic is going to handle the topic that no one wants to talk about.

When things aren't working out the way you'd hoped.

I don't want to freak you out, but it's imperative that you be prepared to get tough news during recruitment.

I'll start by explaining what happened to me - 10 months prior to recruitment, I visited Rhodes on an overnight visit for swimming. I hung out with some girls on the swim team, and many of them were members of the chapter I now call home. I loved everything about them and what they told me about their Greek experiences. I knew which house I wanted in October of 2013, before I had even officially decided that I was heading to Memphis the following fall.

Fast forward to late August of 2014. I go through open house, and I find myself with two houses in my top choice slot. So, I went into the library to enter my choices for the next round, and the house I am currently in and this other house were my top two choices.

The next morning, we got our schedules for that evening's recruitment parties. I was dropped by one of my top choices. I was hurt and confused. I really liked that house, and I honestly thought my conversations went really well and that I connected with the girls there. I was down about it almost all day, and then it hit me that although this particular house didn't ask me back, there were 3 other houses that did! (There are four houses total at Rhodes)

After a phone call with my mom and a brief chat with my Gamma Chi (greek neutral recruitment leaders who surrender their letters to help you find yours!), I realized that I wasn't dropped because that house didn't like me. I wasn't a good fit for their chapter, that was all.

After bid day, when I saw the girls in their pledge class, I truly realized that I wouldn't have fit in that chapter well. I have some fantastic friends in that house (#panlove), but it wouldn't have been as good of a fit as the house I'm in now is.

So, the moral of the story is this - just because a house drops you, it doesn't mean that they didn't like you. It doesn't mean that you did anything wrong, it doesn't mean that they hate you, it doesn't mean that they noticed your stress sweat. It just means that you weren't the best fit. And that is okay.

See, here's the other thing about recruitment - everything works out in the end. Some of my friends received bids from their second choice houses and were really upset on bid day. However, they decided to give the chapter a chance, and after a little bit of time, they fell in love with their chapters and now wear their letters proudly.

In short, que sera, sera. What will be, will be.

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xx, Victoria

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  1. Great lesson! This goes along with most anything in life as well! And at 34 I'm really starting to realize and understand! It may not always be an easy lesson, but it's a great one! Glad you found a good fit!!!

  2. Rush week can be tricky... but you do end up in the house that you should be in. Great advice!
    xx, Karen
    Glam Karen

  3. it's so hard not to take it personally. I dropped out my freshman year, but because I didn't get to know the houses-we have deferred rush so it is a little different. I got to know the girls better and pledged my sophomore year. It is extremely gut wrenching!
    Southern Elle Style

  4. Great tips and lesson! Rush is such a learning experience for so many people...I know it taught me a lot and in the long run I'm so happy where I ended up!

  5. I remember Rush! It was a fun and interesting time. Your thoughts and feelings are all over the place. So glad to hear it had a happy ending for you!


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xx, Victoria